GRIEF AFTER MISCARRIAGE

HEALING FROM MISCARRIAGE:​

1. Create a little box for your baby. For me, I bought a little keepsake box where I put the sonograms, pregnancy test, our announcement onesie I never got to share, little notes I received afterwards, etc. Doing this gave me some closure.

2. Name your baby. My husband and I gave our baby the name Lily, which means “pure”. This baby lived a beautiful life wrapped in his/her mother’s womb, and now spends life in perfection.

3. Take a day with your family to grieve the loss, sit with each other, and do something fun or productive. It could be the day it happens, the following, or even that weekend. We all have busy lives, but it is essential to slow down, allow yourself to process the immediate pain, and allow your body to heal.

4. Light a candle on your baby’s due date or on pregnancy and infant loss awareness day. Sit in the grief. Let yourself process and grieve the loss. Remember you are not alone, the Lord is near to the crushed in spirit and broken hearted. So many women are facing the reality of loss. When you are brave enough to speak about it, you will also give the women you are in fellowship with the courage to speak of their own loss.

5. Tell the people you are in community with and allow them to love on you. Our local MOPS/MOMCo group brought Wesley and I a meal, a hope mommies box, and a bouquet of roses. The kindness of these sweet women were something we will treasure in our hearts forever. We do ourselves and our friends a kindness when we walk in community together.

 

SUPPORT A COUPLE WALKING THROUGH MISCARRIAGE:​

1. Provide the family with a Hope Mommies Box. This little box has support resources, a few small gifts, books on Heaven, and a handwritten note. This is a huge way to bless a mom experiencing loss.

2. Provide a meal. If you are low on time, providing food can be as easy as buying an already prepared meal from HEB or food platter from Sam’s/Costco. This simple gift allows a family to grieve and heal without worrying about feeding themselves or their other children.

3. Invite the mom and/or dad to coffee/lunch/dinner. This is another simple way to love and commune with a hurting family. Reach out, not just to the mother, but the father too. We often forget they are grieving and deeply wounded too.

4. Remember the due date. Put their due date on your calendar and give yourself a week reminder. Send a gift/card, drop off flowers, invite the couple over for dinner, or invite them out to do something fun with you. The impact of someone remembering their pain in the months that follow is going to stick with this couple for the rest of their lives.